As you can see today topic, there is no new topic. The reason why I put it no new topic because of my personal problems yet not settled until i have an idea to write certain topics which I can find do really interesting me. And then it's also all the interesting topics come from my personal experiences or else, I have learn from someone else do inspiring me after reading their articles. Thus so far, I should put down my words with daily basis. Although it is my personal goals in when I have set up in earlier started to write down all my personal ideas. Some times it is simple to write anything, but the value of lesson to share with anyone must provides some insights, real experiences as well as information can be obtained to enhance their perspectives in their living.
Nevertheless, this couple of weeks where I have been tighten up with numbers of cases which coincidences trouble in my mind at the same time. Bad things indeed could be happen anytime, anywhere without you are expectation. More so, it beyond your control especially things are usually common and should not be repeat your mistakes. I thoughts suppose can be overcome it, time can be passed really fast such as rocket to sky. As old often said, "If you need live in peace of minds, you should solve your problems before it has happen." It's extremely truth. I did experience that the bad things always not as good as your think. Whatever will come across to you, it could be one after one, I encountered one time happens few things that you can't immediately overcome unless it's simple and not important.
I, last time always think I was smart enough, as where it was my mistakes being thoughts you're smart for every problems. Thus, I thought that "I was genius". It's such big mistake in which I have done. I learned from my all good "teachers" (mistakes). No matter how smart am I now, I still to learn anyone else in my life. They all are my personal mentors in my heart. You may thinking that why are you need more mentors? I could be say that the more mentors you have, they will guide you with right ways and right attitudes, furthermore, they are expect nothing from you as long as you are appreciate their advices and ideas. Even though, I don't see any disadvantages unless I am still thinking I am smart enough between each of them. I now look at problems where I can view my frustration in the mirror. A frustration that I have, I really feared to failure. I have no more chances to myself at least you must change. I've been long time did not review my pass performances, though, I have recently update my performances, mistakes and actions to understand more about myself. Right now, I require myself to understand all the mistakes that I have made, I must change & I must retrieve my right attitude to attempt in this competitive edges. I must carry with this inspiring 4 P every daily practise:
Be PASSION, PATIENCE, PERSISTENCE, PERSEVERANCE.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Suicide is not Solution, it's a Problems
A relative of mine committed suicide the other day and I am compelled to write about this issue in the hope that maybe I could help stop someone from doing the same. I am against this seemingly easy exit strategy as it causes more problems than solutions and there are better ways to deal with issues.
The incident involving this relative happened out of the blue and I noticed the following:
Suicide leaves a lot of unanswered questions
One might think that it is best to take one's life than try to face the world but this becomes the beginning of a huge puzzle for family and friends. Even if one leaves a suicide note, it hardly answers all the questions that people will have. For instance people might ask: why did someone take this route, was there no other route? Did we not provide enough support to this person? Did we not show enough love and care? Is something or someone else the real cause of this decision? Did the victim exhaust all channels to deal with problems? Could we have done better to stop this decision? Etc.
It leaves unresolved issues behind
Taking one's life does not solve the problem that caused it. If someone decides to end their life in one way or the other because of an issue they have failed to solve, the issue still remains unresolved. If however, someone decides to live, face or tackle the issue it could get resolved somehow. The solution could be something unfavourable to the victim or members of family or relatives but it is still a solution. For instance, one could decide to separate from a spouse where their marriage is causing anguish rather than end their life.
It causes pain and suffering to family and friends
This relative of mine did not stop to think about the pain her suicide would cause us and the child that she left behind. It was a selfish act because it seeks to end one's misery at the expense of other people's happiness. The child left behind will always be haunted by this event and will grow up with a distorted view of life. It will also grow up lacking that motherly love and care. The other relatives will always have that burden of living with a guilty conscience that perhaps they could have prevented this. They will also have a burden of raising the child knowing fully well that they can not take the place of a natural mother.
It is therefore necessary that people look at the above negative consequences of suicide and take into account the following alternative ways of dealing with issues:
Talk to someone when you feel suicidal
Talking is therapeutic. In psychology they use what is called-Free Association. This is when a depressed person is asked to talk about all and sundry and through this method, real issues will begin to emerge and hopefully the problem is identified and resolved. Therefore, it is believed that letting it out will help other people assess your situation and be able to identify how they can help. It also becomes apparent that bottling everything up in the hope that a magic solution will pop up only eats at the heart and soul and leaves one with nothing to live for.
Seek professional help or any help
Any help will do at a time of desperation but professional help will solve the problems more effectively. Say for instance that one is battling with relationship issues; it is prudent to seek out others who have insight or experience in that area. Having their input may help bring light where there was total darkness. Also if someone is depressed, it is wise to consult a therapist, counsellor or anyone experienced in dealing with such issues. There is always a way but finding the way might require an expert.
I am therefore still convinced that there is a way out of any difficult situation and that committing suicide is not the solution to problems.
Monday, October 5, 2009
No shortcut Will Allowed if You have Begin
How do i address my feeling today? Partial disability or lost my leg & hand? Heartless on what I have done previously. Could I begin from ZERO again? If possible, there is no more backward. Time is passed. The reality is truth. You can't ignore and avoid it. It's all happened on what number of mistakes which you did. It's all can be considered non-sense, bullshit and idiot action as well as something action was beyond your capability. How can you afford it without understand your own personal strengths?
You pay peanut, then you will get monkeys. How many of us understand it really mean to us in our daily behavior and patterns? It's pretty hurt although you think everything can be calm down and deep breath to make thing easily. It's damn hard and difficult, indeed. What can you imagine is when you have prepared & planned carefully for your travel trip, and coincidence that you're out of your expectation, things ran unsmooth & worst happened on you. You must lost track, you must missed concentration. Lost focus, can't awake up & of course you can't rebound yourself as faster as possible.
Last time, I thought there was a shortcut to go through for your life's. Now I realise that there is no such gorgeous story will be happen if you do not put any concentration, efforts and energy in the matter where you think it usually there is simple phenomenon in our life. Simple tasks require simple step, no shortcut allowed. If you think there is a possible, you are killing yourself slowly. Bad habit can't hiding too long, it'll telling everyone that you are not the better one that they'll think.
My life almost pissed off. Thinking being messed up. Terrible things happened too fast, you can't control or monitor their perception about you. Only few words can say, "you must accept your responsible will be happen to you in next undertaking."
You pay peanut, then you will get monkeys. How many of us understand it really mean to us in our daily behavior and patterns? It's pretty hurt although you think everything can be calm down and deep breath to make thing easily. It's damn hard and difficult, indeed. What can you imagine is when you have prepared & planned carefully for your travel trip, and coincidence that you're out of your expectation, things ran unsmooth & worst happened on you. You must lost track, you must missed concentration. Lost focus, can't awake up & of course you can't rebound yourself as faster as possible.
Last time, I thought there was a shortcut to go through for your life's. Now I realise that there is no such gorgeous story will be happen if you do not put any concentration, efforts and energy in the matter where you think it usually there is simple phenomenon in our life. Simple tasks require simple step, no shortcut allowed. If you think there is a possible, you are killing yourself slowly. Bad habit can't hiding too long, it'll telling everyone that you are not the better one that they'll think.
My life almost pissed off. Thinking being messed up. Terrible things happened too fast, you can't control or monitor their perception about you. Only few words can say, "you must accept your responsible will be happen to you in next undertaking."
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Changing Before End Up Become A Dinasour
What if I say, "Changing the way we change?" Some of you may question in your minds, what am i trying to address here? It could be matter of changing the way where can find yourself how effect of change. In this turbulent times, we of course alert that dealing with much pressure to change. Change does causing us to be better and improve as well as we survive to grow. Nobody will disagree what my statement is. The main reason is the changes will foresee uncertainty happens to us especially in this economy downturn.
It strongly believe that everyone does not used to adapt as fast as they have changed the way of living and life's. Each individual constantly delivered on what they have adopt in their living such as the way of communication, thoughts, belief, behaviors and so forth. Indeed, it's reality. These are where represents their status of behaviors how they are dealing difference kind of people daily.
In regards of management, the leaders must understand that change is inevitable and must comes from within. It's so important to hear the voices of surrounding of them. For instance, in the competitive edges, as leader should listening their customer voices, it must takes into their account to evaluate how to give more advance customer services to maintain their satisfaction. Change is continuous, not an "event" and thus so far there is no innovation and paradigm shift has been implemented overnight.
Do you expect anything change in next few days? Surprisingly we should thought likely, however, we must know the next cycle of change. Assuming that you have realized that your current employment has been having difficulty in their financial work flow, and it must implemented VSS to cutting their cost and employees, what next you would like to do? It because of fear, they must change their minds and before committed to it. It is important to understand that people tend to go through stages in their attempt to cope with change. Knowing the next cycle of change allows the preparation of the change mindset.
Quick fix or change paradigm may not be appropriate. When changing mindsets, management leaders must understand that quick fixes may not be appropriate. Here is a case for your consideration: There is a leak in the ceiling of one of the offices and instead of fixing it, someone puts a pail under it to collect the water. He uses the simplest method to address the problem, not fix the cause of the leak. This illustrates the need to have a maintenance mindset and culture to fix a root problem in the organisation. On personal aspect, you also must understand whether which changes can be adopt it and which you are not. Don't even simply to change your minded without your own realization. It causing you will wasting your time, the worst thing is you'll lost your concentration and track.
It strongly believe that everyone does not used to adapt as fast as they have changed the way of living and life's. Each individual constantly delivered on what they have adopt in their living such as the way of communication, thoughts, belief, behaviors and so forth. Indeed, it's reality. These are where represents their status of behaviors how they are dealing difference kind of people daily.
In regards of management, the leaders must understand that change is inevitable and must comes from within. It's so important to hear the voices of surrounding of them. For instance, in the competitive edges, as leader should listening their customer voices, it must takes into their account to evaluate how to give more advance customer services to maintain their satisfaction. Change is continuous, not an "event" and thus so far there is no innovation and paradigm shift has been implemented overnight.
Do you expect anything change in next few days? Surprisingly we should thought likely, however, we must know the next cycle of change. Assuming that you have realized that your current employment has been having difficulty in their financial work flow, and it must implemented VSS to cutting their cost and employees, what next you would like to do? It because of fear, they must change their minds and before committed to it. It is important to understand that people tend to go through stages in their attempt to cope with change. Knowing the next cycle of change allows the preparation of the change mindset.
Quick fix or change paradigm may not be appropriate. When changing mindsets, management leaders must understand that quick fixes may not be appropriate. Here is a case for your consideration: There is a leak in the ceiling of one of the offices and instead of fixing it, someone puts a pail under it to collect the water. He uses the simplest method to address the problem, not fix the cause of the leak. This illustrates the need to have a maintenance mindset and culture to fix a root problem in the organisation. On personal aspect, you also must understand whether which changes can be adopt it and which you are not. Don't even simply to change your minded without your own realization. It causing you will wasting your time, the worst thing is you'll lost your concentration and track.
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Why We Fail? (Part Two)
4. Not Learning from past Mistakes
Some people live and learn, and some only live. Wise people learn from their mistakes. People who do not learn lessons form history are doomed. Failure is a teacher if we have the right attitude. Failure is a detour, not a dead end. it is a delay, not a defeat. Experience is the name we give to our mistakes. As quoted, "the past performance is not guarantee for future result." Although it may sound inspired, but you must consistently your perseverance to maintain the best performances. Learn whatever you think it is new to you, new things bring you new experiences.
5. Lack of Discipline
Anyone who has accomplished anything worthwhile has never done so without discipline. Discipline takes self-control, sacrifice, and avoiding distractions and temptations. It means staying focused. Steam does not move the engine unless it is confined. Niagara Falls would not generate power unless it were harnessed. You whether can be thinking the discipline does important to everyone of us, indeed, it extremely important. Look at your daily practising on your financial planning, if without any discipline, you sure will lost control. Nobody can be guided you unless yourself. Monitoring well financial education is to ensure that you can allocate your expenses more wisely, despite that you may also to learn with some financial experts to generate how shall we obtain financial freedom.
6. Poor Self-Esteem
It is a lack of self-respect and self-worth. As I mentioned in earlier, self confidence is required for us to step one further to aim our mission. It links with each other. It tend to understand that it could be caused you to succeed in your paths living. It leads to abuse of one's self and others. People with low self-esteem are constantly looking for identity. They are trying to find themselves. One's self is not to be found but to be created.Idleness and laziness are consequences of poor self esteem and so is making excuses. Idleness is like rust that eats into the most brilliant metal.
7. Fatalistic Attitude
A fatalistic attitude prevents people from accepting responsibility for their position in life. They attribute success and failure to luck. They resign/escape themselves to their fate. They believed and accept the predestined future written in their effort whatever has to happen will happen. Hence, they never put in any effort and complacency becomes a way of life. They wait for things to happen rather than make them happen.
God Bless You. All to Your Best!
Some people live and learn, and some only live. Wise people learn from their mistakes. People who do not learn lessons form history are doomed. Failure is a teacher if we have the right attitude. Failure is a detour, not a dead end. it is a delay, not a defeat. Experience is the name we give to our mistakes. As quoted, "the past performance is not guarantee for future result." Although it may sound inspired, but you must consistently your perseverance to maintain the best performances. Learn whatever you think it is new to you, new things bring you new experiences.
5. Lack of Discipline
Anyone who has accomplished anything worthwhile has never done so without discipline. Discipline takes self-control, sacrifice, and avoiding distractions and temptations. It means staying focused. Steam does not move the engine unless it is confined. Niagara Falls would not generate power unless it were harnessed. You whether can be thinking the discipline does important to everyone of us, indeed, it extremely important. Look at your daily practising on your financial planning, if without any discipline, you sure will lost control. Nobody can be guided you unless yourself. Monitoring well financial education is to ensure that you can allocate your expenses more wisely, despite that you may also to learn with some financial experts to generate how shall we obtain financial freedom.
6. Poor Self-Esteem
It is a lack of self-respect and self-worth. As I mentioned in earlier, self confidence is required for us to step one further to aim our mission. It links with each other. It tend to understand that it could be caused you to succeed in your paths living. It leads to abuse of one's self and others. People with low self-esteem are constantly looking for identity. They are trying to find themselves. One's self is not to be found but to be created.Idleness and laziness are consequences of poor self esteem and so is making excuses. Idleness is like rust that eats into the most brilliant metal.
7. Fatalistic Attitude
A fatalistic attitude prevents people from accepting responsibility for their position in life. They attribute success and failure to luck. They resign/escape themselves to their fate. They believed and accept the predestined future written in their effort whatever has to happen will happen. Hence, they never put in any effort and complacency becomes a way of life. They wait for things to happen rather than make them happen.
God Bless You. All to Your Best!
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