Get Off Your Duff & Do It In 2013

What does "Duff" mean to you? I am honestly telling you that initially I was not understand what does it mean, when there is new things and words to me, I usually will find and search deeply for my own understanding to get myself improve unless 1% of a day, a year of new learning could be unlimited & countless. Sounds logical and realistic, isn't it? I do not mean you should agree with me the ways how am I actually learning, no offense and obligation, i suggest you can keep this genius way as your reference how to grow yourself without paying much money and attending any tutorial to learn new things and knowledge. Back to story, what actual mean the "Duff" can be explained to 'useless, worthless, ineffective, broken or no good.' There are few explanation on this particular word. To me, I love to use 'no good'. How to describe this terms to you? How are you use it in your life? I have very good example how can you breakthrough your setbacks and challenges to overcome your feared.

Only a few months earlier, a friend of mine named Wilson, he is talented person and smart in areas of sales and marketing, he's putting all his efforts to learn how to market himself, and unfortunately he had mountain of debts on his behind. Why? I have no ideas. The worst is everyday is virtually paralyzed by fear. Sometime even the bankers had been dropped by his house to collect their bad debts from him. Although he is working now, but then he unable to pay his bills and rolled every month. It slowly grow like mountain of snows in short period of time. Obviously, he was thinking to declare bankruptcy, I did urge him that it is not advice him to declare that status. His thoughts had gave up his intention. And to make it worse, Wilson's wife just recently gave a birth of sweetie daughter's named Cecelia. He had eventually added his burned of his living in terms of financial constraint. Pretty sad to know that he is responsible now for the whole family expenses where his wife should stop being worked at couple of few months.

Wilson felt stuck, but then one day he can't get off his fear and until forced him went to bank and took along all unbills statements, old taxes returns. This was the best ways for him to get more financial support by banks. He got no ways to go unless he is willing to sitting down with bankers with solved the problems.

But guessed what, Wilson basically owned a house, which the one he is staying now more than 16 years. It was worth unexpected more than he noticed. That time, the bank officer told Wilson that if he refinanced his house, he could leveraged out of his bad debts and additionally have enough left over to pay more than a year of his baby's grocery stuffs. Obviously he went into that meeting scared, but he came out with empowered.

The moral of the story is, you have to act on your fears, not let them immobilize you. That’s only one of the lessons I learned when I was writing my book. Here are some more:

• You never know whether a situation represents a threat or an opportunity until you confront your fear and take action. Sitting on your duff will never give you the answer to that question. Unless you move ahead despite your fear, you will never know what you are up against.
  
• If you can see a positive goal behind what is scaring you, you are probably in a good situation, not a bad one. Sure you are stressed, but if confronting your fear will let you start a business, retire richer, or buy a property, then you had better move ahead and give it a try. If you can sense a worthwhile goal calling out to you, that is reason enough to move ahead.
  
• Taking action will open up even more possibilities for you. Perhaps you’ll get a loan for one investment house - and the income from that property will allow you to buy still more properties. Or the plan you make to eliminate your debt will free you to start making aggressive investments in only a few years. Moving ahead opens up new ways to succeed, while hiding from your fear only causes your life to collapse in on itself.
  

So remember to think like a baseball player. Can you hit a home run from the bench? Of course not! If you want to swing for the fences, you have to step up to the plate.

Competition forces us to outdo ourself, wow!

Some experts said, "I love challenges, I love competition. Most of successful businessman loves to compete against their competitor to make them stronger and bigger. It is very common to live for survive especially when you alert most of time what are your competitors are doing to provide invaluable information and guidance how to perform well in the critical timing.

Regardless of whatever resources you can able to gain what industry have you in, it is useful for your to understand your competitors what actually doing and working recently. A very good example from our current bosses where I am working at, they eventually will liaise and build close networks with our typical competitors, the interesting part is the negotiation can be ended up how many percent of share you can get when they're willing to share. Sound weird when I was 1st time to hear that statement in this industry.

No doubt, I am in manufacturing industry which produce raw materials for garments and yarns industry. "The tighten of competition, the smooth of your business operational." Nothing bad or good can concluded, as long as the information is valuable, relevant and accurate, what wrong provide me more without any constraint where they faced. It's marvelous lesson when I learned this from my current employer's.

Ultimately, competition able to make your business heading to next standard level for live surviving. Not only business has their competition each others, to getting job better offer also part of it. Hiring the right candidates with right salary at the right time, it's obviously hard and harder. Competition arises caused of competition, no competition at all, how can the potential employers can be hired the most suitable and right person to work with them. A risk is appeared when hiring a person fresh in the industry, either they have hired or not, you have taking your own risk. That's why big corporation always has risk management in certain areas.

As I mentioned in earlier, hire right person always created competition, so how about in business world? We all remember that the huge competition can able to help you doing well in your business, certainly achieve success than what they have. Be enthusiasm to turn your business more unique and dynamic to gain competitive advantages.

Know your limitations and Know when to say No!!!

The leadership experts often urge people do know your limitation, you then must breakthrough it, overcome the setback and heading to success route. Oh my god, I do foresee that how many people work it out, strive the best, not many indeed. I guessed 1 out of 100 person in their perspectives in living with varying points of view.

This is why successful market leaders go to difference path in their life after breaking through the wall(setbacks) regardless how tough it is, thoughts still one of the powerful tools to achieve successfully. One day my respective director has asked me went to his office, closed the door policy and speak within only 3 person which are a director, a manager and a sales staff. I was a sales staff. He ever has asked that, "Calvin, could you please tell me what is your bottom lines?". I was shocked. I did not know how to react this question, i perhaps asked myself, why he asked this? It's just within me and my manager in his office. I look at my manager and asked why he ask so. I indeed honestly responded by my inner heart, I said "Yes, Boss. My bottom line is when I have worked so hard to get whatsoever the customer needs within short period time, but they have appreciated me. It's stacked (I say in my heart).

Literally, Im not afraid direct dealing what kind of customer characters, I just let him know what is my bottom mine. You asked me now, I would say I have limitation and I knew what is my limitation. Would be negative impression if I indirectly show and/or tell anyone my limitations? Have you experienced that before? Many successful businesses did collapse with pay no attention on what they have done without improving, innovating and analyzing competitive development until these impacts make their business failure and ended filed bankruptcy and being sued by legal action. Someone does saying, being smart to play dumbs.

In today's world, there have dishonest business people making money and the rich becomes richer. Why? They are, BULLDOZING. They usually will be bullying those people with their limitation. They tend to be buzzer when you have show the limitation and lack of knowledge in certain fields. Not bad being criticized by people especially they are your tutors whom teaching, guiding and providing you gorgeous market inputs in your field. They are actually become your good business partner to guide you how to make your negotiation skill getting stronger. And know when to say "NO" if someone really do not tolerant to you at all. Must say "NO" when overtake your limitation and unable to allow you to breath and approaching. Do strongly advice you to pay immediately action now onwards to say "NO" with your bad habits and behavior in order to stay in better living.

Constantly To Top Yourself

A fabulous quote by leadership experts said, "No person who is enthusiastic about his work has everything to fear from life." Sounds inspired to you, isn't it? Most of time, lots of people do not constantly to motivate themselves into a right position to succeed. I have questioned myself, why such situation can be occurred? It's really simple to me and you, when everyone does motivating their life and living, all of us can achieved better living and importantly obtained financial freedom. Although sounds it is impossible nowadays, though it could be possibilities to break this bad curse for everyone.

Apart from that, people always think negatively when they have faced lots of setbacks and challenges in their life. The main strong reason why they have same thoughts because of they feared to failure and willing to limit themselves and do not let other people to know their limitation. In survey shows that, why there is only 1 person out of group of 10 persons think positively instead of all people think positively in their group, the answer is simple, " it is caused of influences and negatively impacts by negative people. Among this group, when someone does wanted to change to be more positive, the other person just sitting next to the person to encourage him or her to giving up for changes. It's all about the influences.

For those successful people, they are usually not mingle with the negative thoughts person. They have a strong inner minded, they do not want to get with surrounding bad influences persons. I am thinking when you gather this group of people, it is good to build a gap between you and them. It could be says, "to build roadblock within a fire wall'. Obviously, there is pros and cons to know this group of people. The pros would be to identify their weaknesses and limitation in order for you to improve yourself in certain of areas to enhance alertness and confidences. It can't be say purely wasting my time to gather with such negativity groups.

What A unforgetable & memorable Mother's day this year!

When I have stepped in my office this morning, I was wondering what had happened within these 2 days during my holidays. I guess I was thinking too much indeed, my thoughts kept telling me that it is changed. Some changes has been concluded. Perhaps I do not want exact happened within this 2 days, nevertheless the hint wasn't good enough. It could never back to normal and yet it is heading to next destination in their paths.

Oh ya, sorry about my fabulous Mother's Day in this year, of course it was difference as what celebrated last couple of years. I have never seen my pretty princess such delightful, happiness and appreciating. She was appreciating me that taking leave to celebrate with her and my mother-in-law for this unforgettable Mother's Day. I initially do not expect she was so delightful, yet I just thought that she wanted to celebrate with her mother's this year with her 29th birthday together. It was nothing special, the event which we have planned was new and special dedication for our mothers this year. Eventually my wife and I were commonly celebrated our mother's day separately. Don't get me wrong, we both are celebrating with each of our mother in difference place. In other words, my mum-in-law was traveling from her hometown far away, long distance and took about 3 hours to my home in city.

Sad to say that this year wasn't celebrated my wife hometown, and required our parent's to travel tiring either. It sounds like we make them more tiring on this traveling. We anyway have marvelous celebration with our mum's that particular important Mother's day. What someone did ask me how was your mother's day celebration, I only can say 2 words, "Marvelous and Gorgeous." When it seems like I more prefer to use such words frequently and often, what would make me use that strong and inspiring words, indirectly it is something really goes into my sweet memorable. It's pretty new in sense of my mum-in-law loves to sing and often to participate in singing tournament at her staying places. Although it is short in karaoke, but we were really enjoyable. To me and my wife, it is just nothing when we go to "K", but this time we have asked our mummy's to join as what she loves and her hobbies as well.

A few words I should express my gratitude to my lovely mother's when I was falling down in my career paths last time, you are always support and inspired me. When I was doing something hurt your feeling, you were never gave me up and stand besides of me to indicate me which ways are the right directions before turning to wrong destination. When I was looking at you, staring at you when you have concentrating and focusing on doing your stuffs, your faces clearly stated you are getting older and older as where you may not noticed and alert, you know where your capabilities can be utilised. No matter what is going on in next day, me and sweet heart always stand by next to you.

"A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts."